In the pursuit of traditional Christian Homemaking, we can sometimes get lost in the latest trends, or confused about the importance of our role within the home. It’s all too easy to become burdened with exhaustion, comparison, and feeling undervalued. But how does God feel about us homemakers? When we take a look at the Biblical perspective of Christian homemaking/motherhood, we realize how important this role really is.
Christian Homemaking In A Modern World
Being a traditional Christian homemaker in the modern world we live in today should be a breeze! We have all the newest technology and gadgets to make the mundane tasks of homemaking easy and quick! We have access to day planners, spreadsheets, and chore charts to keep us organized. We have the ability to receive INSTANT praise for the picture worthy chocolate chip muffins we’ve just baked – by uploading a snapshot of them to social media.
Yet, all of these gadgets and social outlets can often leave us feeling unfulfilled – like there’s MORE to taking care of our homes than just posting about it on Instagram.
If you’re a stay-at-home mom, some may assume that you sit on the couch all day scrolling Facebook before popping a frozen lasagna into the oven for supper! And the constant media messaging about “self care” and “girl power” can quickly lead a woman down a road of resentment towards her family and the role she plays in her home.
Therefore, that MORE that we’re feeling, can’t be related to us actually ENJOYING being the nurturer of our home….can it?
A Traditional Christian Homemaker’s Desire To Serve
The reality is, so many of us Christian women have a deep desire to serve our families in a way that the world often frowns upon. We know it feels fulfilling to take care of our husband, our home, and our children….but society tells us that the role of a housewife is meaningless, weak, and outdated.
However, the Bible talks about traditional Christian homemaking in an entirely different light than the world does. It speaks of Godly homemaking, submitting to your own husbands, and warning against the “bread of idleness”.
Proverbs 31:27 reminds us, “She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.”
As homemakers, God calls us to work diligently and purposefully in our daily lives, managing the household tasks and taking care of our families. Not only is homemaking a lot of work, it’s hard work! There are always constant to-do lists, piles of dishes in the sink, and hungry bellies to feed every single day. But it really is extremely rewarding!
It doesn’t matter what the world thinks, or even what your family may think. What matters most in being a homemaker is God’s perspective! Focusing on how God sees and values you, makes for joyful homemaking.
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Being A Traditional Christian Wife
Whether you’ve been married 40 years or you’re a fresh newlywed, your role as a Christian wife is the cornerstone of your homemaking journey.
Ephesians 5:22-24 speaks of this when it says: “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.” Submitting to your husband is not about being controlled or abused. If those things are present in your home, I would urge you to find help right away. What the Bible refers to, is submitting yourself to a loving husband and allowing him to lead. In doing so, this creates a partnership, respect, and a home that is built on a strong foundation of faith.
When we as women let go of the selfish ways of this world, and learn to lean on and submit ourselves fully to God and our husbands – something beautiful happens. We begin to see the design that God has for marriage, and we feel the joy that flows from that. God commands husbands to love their wives, and for wives to respect their husbands. When those two things are happening inside of a marriage, it brings out the best in each partner and glorifies God in the process!
Full-Time Homemaker as a Stay-at-Home Mom
I remember when I was a little girl and would play “house” with my friends. I always liked it when I got to play the role of the “mom”! It felt good pretending to be the caretaker of everyone in the game – cleaning, tucking my children into bed, and putting a meal of plastic grapes and apples on the table for my family. Although I didn’t know it at the time, I believe the satisfaction I felt from playing that role was actually something so much larger than simple childish fun.
I believe that God has placed a desire, and an ability, inside of women to be the nurturers of their home. For some women, like myself, being a full-time homemaker and stay-at-home mom is in fact, our full-time job.
This wasn’t always the case for me though. Up until a couple of years ago I managed a career while trying to homeschool our two kids, and handle everything required of me within the home. But for me, it was too much.
My heart was with my home, not my career. I liked what I did, but I knew what held the most eternal value for me – and that was my role as a homemaker. (And in our case, a homeschool mom as well).
If you’re feeling lead to leave the corporate world behind and fully embrace the title of full-time homemaker/stay-at-home mom….you’re not alone. Don’t feel bad about your desire to serve your family – it’s a GOOD thing!
Full-Time Homemaker as a Working Mom
For all of the women who are working moms, the art of Christian homemaking takes on a different look sometimes. Balancing a full-time job and the full-time role of making a home is a LOT, and at times can feel overwhelming.
But you know what? God has a plan for you and will equip you with everything you need. Lean hard into Him and He will give you strength, direction, and often most importantly – rest.
Juggling the demands of a career and the home is exhausting, and can feel too heavy to carry. Allow yourself to find rest in the Lord by spending time with Him and casting all your cares on Him. Nothing is too heavy for Him, and He can handle it all!
If this is the category you fall under, here are a few practical tips to help you from feeling overwhelmed:
- Remember that it takes a village – not just to raise kids, but for everything! Don’t try to do it all alone; lean in to those around you for help and support when needed.
- Meal Planning – the fewer last minute decisions you have to make, the better!
- Mark family time down on the calendar so that you can make sure it doesn’t get overlooked.
- Give yourself some grace….LOTS of it! God pours His grace over us every single day, so don’t forget to give yourself some too!
What is a Traditional Christian Homemaker?
So, what exactly is a traditional Christian homemaker? What is biblical homemaking all about? It’s not just about cooking, cleaning, and home decor (although those are certainly a part of it!). To answer these questions, we must look to God’s Word for answers.
Titus 2:5 explains this beautifully: “To be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the Word of God.” In other words, our role as homemaker is about creating an atmosphere of love, kindness, and respect that reflects God’s glory!
Traditional Christian homemaking isn’t a waste of time as the world would try to make us believe. It’s a calling designed by God, a journey that refines us, and a blessing to be the keeper of the home. Whether you’re a stay-at-home mom, a working mom, a wife, or all of the above, know that God cherishes and values you. Your efforts are not in vain, and the work you are doing is good and for the glory of God!
Bible Verses About Homemaking
The Bible is full of scriptures about the importance of homemaking because God wants us to see our value in Him! As a traditional Christian homemaker, you do not have to seek validation from the world around you when the Creator of the universe has written you right into His Word.
God’s plan is perfect, and God’s grace is sufficient! The management of a home is no small task but we don’t serve a small God! He has designed you to be able to do this, as long as you seek Him and lean on His wisdom and strength.
The best ways of being a good homemaker are:
- Know the biblical truth about who God really is and who you are in Him.
- Ensure your ultimate goal is to glorify God in ALL things. (Colossians 3:23)
- Love your husband and your children, and show them grace every day.
- Take joy in learning new homemaking skills – it’s so fun and rewarding!
Here are some Bible verses to encourage you in your traditional Christian homemaking journey!
A Welcoming Home Life
- 1 Timothy 5:10 – “And having a reputation for good works: if she has brought up children, has shown hospitality, has washed the feet of the saints, has cared for the afflicted, and has devoted herself to every good work.”
- Proverbs 11:16 – “A kindhearted woman gains honor, but ruthless men gain only wealth.”
- Psalm 90:17 – “May the favor of the Lord our God rest on us; establish the work of our hands for us—yes, establish the work of our hands.
- Proverbs 21:9 – “Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.”
- Proverbs 17:22 – “A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.”
- Joshua 24:15b – “But as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord.”
Older Women & Younger Women
- Proverbs 14:1 – “The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.”
- Proverbs 24:3-4 – “By wisdom, a house is built, and through understanding, it is established; through knowledge, its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures.”
- Proverbs 31:10 – “A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.”
- Proverbs 31:15 – “She rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household and portions for her maidens.”
- Proverbs 31:26-27 – “She opens her mouth with wisdom and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.”
- Titus 2:3-5 – “Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands so that no one will malign the Word of God.”
- Psalm 128:3 – “Your wife will be like a fruitful vine within your house; your children will be like olive shoots around your table.”
- Colossians 3:23-24 – “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving.”
Encouraging The Keeper Of The Home
- Proverbs 31: 28-29 – “Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.”
- Philippians 2:14-15 – “Do all things without grumbling or disputing, that you may be blameless and innocent, children of God without blemish in the midst of a crooked and twisted generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world.”
- Philippians 4:6-7 – “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
- 1 Peter 4:8 – “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.”
- Proverbs 22:6 – “Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old he will not depart from it.”
- Psalm 25:4-5 – “Show me your ways, Lord, teach me your paths. Guide me in your truth and teach me, for you are God my Savior, and my hope is in you all day long.”
Blessings!
~Maryann
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